Episode 220
Self-Sabotage (feat. Heather Chauvin)
Do you find yourself self-sabotaging, repeating the same patterns? You know what to do but every day something happens? What if you could reverse engineer all of your goals and live the best life you can imagine? Here’s how!
Today Jenn interviewed leadership coach Heather Chauvin. Heather is a coach, podcaster, and author who helps women live, work and parent on their own terms. Heather discusses how you can identify if you are self sabotaging and what steps you can take to reverse engineer your goals and conquer new habits to achieve the best version of your life possible. Tune in to hear Heather’s advice on taking consistent action and creating new habits. She shares so many incredible tools and stories in this episode about self sabotage, it’s a must listen!
The Salad With a Side of Fries podcast is hosted by Jenn Trepeck, discussing wellness and weight loss for real life, clearing up the myths, misinformation, bad science & marketing surrounding our nutrition knowledge and the food industry. Let’s dive into wellness and weight loss for real life, including drinking, eating out, and skipping the grocery store.
IN THIS EPISODE:
● [4:10] Heather Chauvin shares her journey of self-discovery and how she got to where she is today.
● [7:43] How did Heather figure out what the dis-ease was in her body and how did she fix it?
● [9:23] What was Heather’s struggle with food and how did she heal her relationship with food?
● [14:15] Where did Heather experience self sabotage and where does she see it with her clients?
● [16:38] How does Heather define self sabotage and what might someone experience if they are self sabotaging?
● [20:12] Why do we self sabotage as a way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings?
● [23:23] What is Energetic Time Management (ETM) and why is it the tool to help combat sabotage?
● [31:12] How do we reverse engineer what we are desiring to uncover the actions we need to take?
● [37:36] How can people take consistent action?
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
● Self sabotage is when you are living reactively and not proactively. When you are out of alignment with how you want to feel. All humans experience self sabotage throughout their life when they are experiencing something uncomfortable or avoiding uncomfortable or unfamiliar feelings.
● To reverse engineer the way you want to feel, you have to lean into a feeling, to name the things you are feeling, then make a list of the things that you actually need to do to change that. Physically put the action into place, then start working on the mental shift. Show up as the feeling that you want to feel, and then reflect in the areas that you are not feeling the desired feelings and decide what else you need to change.
● Being committed doesn’t mean this one thing at the expense of all other things or your compassion for yourself. It doesn’t mean perfection. The more you are consistent, the less shame and self sabotage you’ll feel and the more likely you’ll be able to change your habits/life.
QUOTES:
“When people were ‘suck it up buttercup, life sucks, motherhood sucks, you know this is it, motherhood sucks’. And I was like yeah I know this “sucks” but does it have to?” - Heather Chauvin
“I had to learn how to reverse engineer how I wanted to feel in all areas of my life, and I always say I believe cancer saved my life.” - Heather Chauvin
“If you are curious, you will always say ‘I know what I need to do but I’m not doing it’. If you are committed to getting rid of your pain, you will say ‘I’m willing to learn and to lean into what that emotional resistance is’.” - Heather Chauvin
“I don’t think people consider themselves perfectionists until they try to change.” - Heather Chauvin
“Perfection is a coping strategy. It is not an identity of ‘I am a perfectionist’. That is a way that you cope to avoid feeling your feelings.” - Heather Chauvin
“What's in our cup? What does life do to us? It triggers us and everything that's in our cup comes up and out. And if self punishment is in that cup, self hatred, that ‘I'm not good enough’, the way that we talk to ourselves, is in that cup and you trigger it, the second you're trying to push and birth a new version of yourself, everything that is no longer serving you is going to come up and out. I call that an emotional poop. That emotional poop that's going to come up and out, that is the emotionally uncomfortable stuff. That's where we need to kind of detox our emotions and be like, ‘okay, perfectionism is going to get a little bit bigger before it is leaving my identity, before that's leaving my body and my mind and how I cope and how I make decisions and how I do the things.” - Heather Chauvin
“You are your best coach. You know...” - Jenn Trepeck
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GUEST RESOURCES
Energetic Time Management Habit Challenge
GUEST BIO:
Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach who helps ‘successful’ women courageously and authentically live, work, and parent on their own terms.
Heather started her career as a social worker helping adults understand children’s behavior. But it wasn’t until 2013 when a stage 4 cancer diagnosis pushed her to take a deeper stand for change, uncovering how cultural expectations sabotage our dreams. She has been featured in Forbes, Entrepreneur, Real Simple Magazine, Mind Body Green, Google, and more.
When Heather isn’t working, you will find her living out what she teaches which may include kayaking Alaska, snowboarding, hiking, or anything else that challenges what she believes is possible for herself (and inviting her children along the journey). Life is full of opportunities. It’s time to feel alive.
